Relationship Counselling in London & Online: A Deeper Exploration
“Love is not something natural. Rather, it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It is not a feeling, it is a practice.” – Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
At the heart of many human struggles lies one deep longing: to love and be loved, authentically. Yet this simple yearning often comes entangled with fear—of rejection, of abandonment, of intimacy itself. In my relationship counselling practice in London and online, we gently explore what gets in the way of connection—and how healing begins within.
The Courage to Love: A Human and Spiritual Challenge
Scott Peck, in The Road Less Travelled, asserts that true love is not about dependency or neediness—it’s about extending oneself for the purpose of nurturing another’s growth. This is no small task. As Peck writes, “Love is the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.” It takes courage and inner clarity to love in this way.
In our work together, we explore love not only as an emotion, but as an act of will and attention—a spiritual discipline as much as a human need.
What Keeps Us Stuck in Unhealthy Patterns?
We often unconsciously repeat relational dynamics from early life, particularly shaped by our attachment styles. Whether you lean anxiously toward connection or instinctively avoid closeness, these patterns were once survival strategies. But they can limit your experience of intimacy today. Awareness is the first step toward change.
Carl Jung said,
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
In spiritual therapy, we learn to notice these inner scripts—and rewrite them with compassion.
The Vulnerability of Loving
Brené Brown speaks often of how vulnerability is the birthplace of connection. Yet to be vulnerable requires us to face shame, fear, and the haunting question: “Am I worthy of love?” Relationship counselling can support you in meeting these fears with gentleness—so that love becomes less about proving and more about being.
Love as Art: Therapy as Canvas
Marc Chagall once painted lovers floating through sky and dream—a visual metaphor for how love lifts us beyond ordinary perception. In a way, loving is like art: it draws upon creativity, presence, vulnerability, and soul.
As a therapist grounded in psychosynthesis, I support you to uncover the creative self behind your defenses. The part of you that knows how to love—and be loved—in deeper, freer ways.
Looking Outward Together: The Little Prince
In Antoine de Saint-Exupéry’s The Little Prince, he writes,
“Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
In couples work and relationship counselling, we rediscover this outward gaze—one that aligns your hearts with shared values, purpose, and direction. Love deepens not in fusion, but in conscious companionship.
Daisaku Ikeda on Love and Wisdom
“Love without wisdom can become obsession; wisdom without love becomes cold,”
said Buddhist philosopher Daisaku Ikeda. True healing requires both heart and insight. In therapy, we cultivate both—the warmth of compassion, and the clarity to act differently.
Who Is This For?
- You long for deeper intimacy but fear losing yourself in love.
- You find yourself stuck in repeated patterns of emotional disconnection or conflict.
- You’re healing from heartbreak, betrayal, or relationship trauma.
- You want to explore love through a soulful, spiritual lens.
Further Reading
- Spiritual Awakening or Breakdown? How to Tell the Difference
- Psychosynthesis Therapy for Life Transitions
- The Art of Self Forgiveness
Explore Relationship Counselling with Alex
If you’re ready to shift your inner world to change your relationships, or want simply to talk, I invite you to reach out. Together, we’ll explore what it means to love and be loved—not perfectly, but more truly.
Book a Free 15-Minute Consultation or an initial session (£50-70) →
Keywords: relationship counselling London, holistic therapy for relationships, online relationship therapy, intimacy issues, spiritual therapy, psychosynthesis counselling
Alex Golding is a BACP registered & qualified Psychosynthesis Counsellor offering affordable rates as a private therapist in Farringdon, London Bridge and Online. He is passionate about offering spiritually informed holistic and humanistic therapy to artists, men, young people, or anyone struggling with belonging, depression, meaning, or anxiety, in order to realise their fullest potential.