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Relationship Counselling in London & Online
Are you longing for more closeness in your relationships—but finding it hard to feel safe, understood, or truly seen?
Maybe you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Or you lose yourself in love, repeating the same painful cycles—no matter how hard you try to do it differently.
Relationship counselling in London & online & online can help you reconnect with yourself, understand the emotional patterns that shape how you love, and begin to relate from a place of clarity, courage and self-trust.
Why We Struggle in Love
“Love is not something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It is not a feeling, it is a practice.”
– Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Most of us were never taught how to love or be loved in a healthy way. We inherit unconscious relational patterns—based on early attachment wounds, cultural conditioning, or past heartbreaks—and play them out again and again.
Avoid intimacy while craving closeness
Collapse boundaries to feel wanted
Stay stuck in relationships that harm our sense of self
Feel shame for needing connection at all
These patterns aren’t who you are. They are strategies you learned to stay safe. And with the right support, they can be transformed.
A Soulful, Holistic Approach to Relational Healing
As a psychosynthesis counsellor, I offer a unique approach to relationship therapy—grounded in emotional healing, somatic awareness, and the deeper journey of the self.
Whether you're single, partnered, or unsure where you stand, our work together is an invitation to:
Explore fears of closeness, rejection or abandonment
Understand the inner parts of you that get triggered in love
Heal wounds around self-worth, trust, and belonging
Reconnect with your body’s wisdom in relationships
Invite spiritual depth and soulful meaning into how you love
We Are Never More Vulnerable Than in Love
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity.”
– Brené Brown
True intimacy asks us to be seen—not just for our strengths, but for our fears, needs, longings, and imperfections.
This is where many of us struggle. Shame, trauma, or fear of being ‘too much’ (or not enough) can keep us armoured, even with those we love most.
In relationship counselling, I offer a safe, compassionate space to explore these vulnerabilities without judgment—so you can show up more authentically in love.
What Gets in the Way of Real Connection?
Anxious or avoidant attachment patterns
Repeating conflict or emotional shutdown
People-pleasing, control, or withdrawal
Fear of losing yourself in closeness
Betrayal, breakups, or unresolved grief
A spiritual longing for connection beyond the surface
Who I Work With
Clients stuck in painful relationship cycles
People recovering from heartbreak, betrayal, or divorce
Those longing for deeper intimacy—but afraid to open
Individuals exploring love, sex, and spirituality
Anyone ready to transform shame into self-worth
What Makes a Relationship Thrive?
“The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.”
– Esther Perel
A fulfilling relationship doesn’t mean the absence of conflict—but the presence of curiosity, repair, and a commitment to growth. It starts with how you relate to your own feelings, needs, boundaries and longings.
Emotional awareness
Clear, compassionate communication
Mutual respect and healthy boundaries
Presence, play, and erotic aliveness
A relationship with yourself that feels safe and whole
In-Person and Online Therapy Options
London Bridge & Farringdon – quiet rooms in Central London
Online sessions – via secure Zoom, UK & international
Flexible scheduling – daytimes and evenings
All sessions are trauma-informed, confidential, and tailored to your pace.
Alex Golding is a BACP registered & qualified Psychosynthesis Counsellor offering affordable rates as a private therapist in Farringdon, London Bridge and Online. He is passionate about offering spiritually informed holistic and humanistic therapy to artists, men and young people, or anyone struggling with belonging, depression, meaning, anxiety in order to realise their fullest potential.
